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 Hey again!

After pregnancy comes the bubba themselves! That little baby in your arms straight after or - like me - after a nap. After the hospital stay or not, straight home you go to try and figure out what the H you're doing. 

In my experience so many people have this idea that the first few months are the easiest... And they can be! They can be so lovely and so important in bonding but do we forget about how hard the transition can be and the feelings that can follow? 

Sleep is the obvious change and we all deal with it in different ways whether it's doing shifts with partners or, for those without, napping while the baby naps. It is super hard to deal with such a drastic change and who knows how long it can take to adjust your body clock and mind!! I personally was never able to nap during the day with bubba but I made it through somehow. Unpopular opinion alert! Get through those months the best way you can any way possible my little one only ever slept on the sofa... For naps and for nights... I bought a bed guard and I slept on that floor right beside him, even though he wasn't able to roll better safe than sorry!

Little tip here for those who don't know... Sterilised bottles with sterilised water in can last 24 hours so sterlise six and put boiled water in before bed and save yourself some unnecessary awake time during the night by only needing to put powder in the bottles not the whole shabang and for those whos babies like warm milk it's quicker to have a bottle warmer or too stand the made bottle in some hot water!

The next big topic is the postnatal depression... I talked about lack of bonding with the bump on my last post and that doesn't always end when you have your baby. Postnatal can mean you are finding it difficult to bond with the baby, you don't feel happy after having the baby and more... I personally felt like the worst person the and the worst parent because of this and did not have any awareness of postnatal so just fell more into depression, a year later and finally I over came it but not without bumps. People I spoke to made me feel judged and worse with their reactions and I didn't trust doctors after negative reactions from them concerning me not bonding with my bump. I had to do it on my own and could have overcome sooner with some help. But let me tell you... You WILL get through it and your hard work with our without bond will pay off. I developed my bond with my child by interaction, the first smile to me, the cuddles were nice and when they happen pause and appreciate the moment each time and the bond will develop. 

I don't want this to get to long so I'll end it a friendly reminder - This is just me sharing my experience and advice from what helped me. It is not a how to fix it and I'm not a Doctor just want to try and help even one person who stumbles across this who is currently dealing with what I went through or did previously and can't make sense of it :D

Please comment, ask questions I'll be writing loads more, so much advice and opinions and I'll be addressing questions from you too!